self-pleasure

Turn Your Self-Pleasure into a Self-Healing Practice

Turn Your Self-Pleasure into a Self-Healing Practice

For the most fulfilling self-pleasure, sensation becomes your focus. Not the images on your screen. Not the fantasies in your mind. Not the well-worn pathway to climax.

Oh, how our brains want to follow that same old pathway. it’s the easiest way there. But what if there’s a more pleasurable way?

Is Sexuality Sacred?

Is Sexuality Sacred?

I posit that sex is sacred because Life is sacred. We exist because of sex, and the act of sex couldn't be more natural. If Life is sacred, so is sex. Almost every person has a story of contacting their natural sexuality as a child—and having it shamed or chastised out of them, to live on in dark corners of the mind and body. When we're shamed about sex when we're young, it causes a lifelong undercurrent of self-questioning. We worry that we're sinners, or that there's something wrong with us. In our unconscious, sex gets connected with these false and disparaging thoughts.

Self-Pleasure for Healing & Transformation

Self-Pleasure for Healing & Transformation

Self-pleasure doesn't have to look like mainstream porn. It's one option, but it's not the only option. The masturbation we see in mainstream porn follows the biological male arousal pattern. Meaning: many people with penises get fully aroused (full engorgement) in 30 seconds - 2 minutes. Meanwhile, the bio-female arousal pattern looks different. It takes a full 30-45 minutes for full genital engorgement, lubrication, and therefore arousal.